Thursday, 1 December 2016

The Misunderstood- When behavior meets disappointment



She is a commoner, like you and me, she wakes up every morning in the hope to be loved. After all, who doesn't want to be loved, right?
I met her a few years ago, but it feels as I have known her for aeons. We had this instant connection, it was serendipity. Her charm is bound to sway you, make you feel happy, and her aura was kind and affectionate. Amidst all, there was this deep longing in her eyes despite her amiable grace and friendly ways. The world had failed her in every way possible; her greatest gift now has become a bitter disappointment.
On an otherwise typical day, I had this burning curiosity to pursue the reason for the solitude in her eyes that everyone surpassed seamlessly. Her deep voice still resonates in my ears, her answer still lingers "…because no one understands me."! I failed to understand as to why has the world turned its back to this gentle soul? Must a beautiful person like her be not cared for? Isn't there hope no more?
Being taken for granted is nobody's cup of tea, yet there she was, day after day, being disposable. She kept it together for a while now. She always uses to work very hard, whenever she had to. Always first in taking responsibilities .Only soul reason for doing this to keep her mates happy. It’s not that people don’t smile, or become excited after seeing her work, but they forget her every time when the work is done.  That's what breaks her apart. She tries to remember, but it kills her inside. Even if she tries sharing it with someone, though that person can give her advice, or she can be ok for that period of time, but she still breaks down every night thinking what mistake she has done or what wrong happened.
Human nature or human behavior always tends to change with the surroundings or inner feelings. Mood swings, depression, anger, happiness everything is caused by the circumstances faced by the person.  We always try to fill gaps with the information we have without thinking for a moment whether the information we have is enough or not and that’s why many people fail to understand others correctly.
Any number of isolated behavior problems can represent adolescent problems and delinquency-shoplifting, truancy, a fight in school, drug or alcohol ingestion. Sometimes, kids can't easily explain why they act the way they do. They may be just as confused about it as the adults, or they simply see delinquent behaviors as appropriate ways to deal with what they experience. Parents and loved ones may feel scared, angry, frustrated, or hopeless. They may feel guilty and wonder where they went wrong. All these feelings are normal, but it is important to understand that there is help available to troubled kids and their families.
When it comes to helping a loved one with mental health problems, providing them with quality information on their disorder is essential. Many mental disorders go undiagnosed because the sufferer is simply unaware their symptoms aren’t normal. They might feel the need to internalize the problems they’re having for fear others won’t understand, or they might not see the pattern of dysfunction their behavior is causing in their everyday life. It’s vital for friends and family members to speak up when they see a problem because that’s often the only way a person will realize the need for help.
Nibedita Saikia

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